Sex Therapist Texas

Sex therapy is talk therapy that focuses specifically on concerns related to sexuality, intimacy, sexual functioning, and your sexual relationship.

We might talk about desire, arousal, orgasm, pleasure, sexual pain, anxiety or avoidance, communication, expectations, boundaries, body image, or how your sexual relationship has changed over time.

And because people sometimes wonder: sex therapy does not involve sexual touching, sexual activity, or physical examinations. We talk. Sometimes very specifically, but still talk. 😆

As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I have specialized training in both sexuality and relationships, which is especially useful when sexual concerns are happening within a couple.

Couples come to sex therapy for all kinds of reasons. You may want help with differences in sexual desire or frequency, difficulty with arousal or orgasm, painful sex, sexual anxiety or avoidance, communicating about sex, differences in wants or boundaries, or feeling sexually disconnected after years together.

You also don't need a diagnosable “sexual problem” to come to sex therapy. Some couples simply want a more satisfying sexual relationship and don't know how to talk about what isn't working.

Sexual concerns rarely exist in a vacuum, so we can also pay attention to the relationship, individual experiences, stress, life transitions, health concerns, and other factors affecting what's happening between you.

Differences in desire are incredibly common. The goal of sex therapy isn't to decide which partner has the “correct” amount of desire or to convince the lower-desire partner to want more sex.

Instead, we can look at how desire works differently for each of you, what contributes to or interferes with arousal and interest, how you've been handling the difference, and whether sex has started to feel loaded with pressure, rejection, resentment, or avoidance.

From there, we can work toward a sexual relationship that takes both partners' experiences, boundaries, pleasure, and desires seriously.

That's okay. You don't need to arrive completely comfortable talking about your sex life or knowing exactly how to describe what's happening.

I talk about sex for a living. You are extremely unlikely to shock me. 😆 I'll ask questions and help us find language for things that may have been difficult to discuss with each other.

We can be direct without making the conversation clinical, graphic, or uncomfortable just for the sake of it. You also get to decide what you're ready to talk about and when.

Yes. I regularly work with couples from religiously conservative and faith-based backgrounds, including LDS couples, as well as couples navigating differences or changes in religious belief.

Religion and culture can shape messages about bodies, desire, pleasure, gender, sexual roles, boundaries, and what sex is supposed to look like. Those beliefs and values can absolutely be part of our work.

I'm not going to assume that becoming more sexually permissive is the goal. We can work toward a sexual relationship that feels satisfying and mutually respectful while taking your actual values seriously.

My practice is focused exclusively on couples, so I don't provide individual therapy for relationship or sexual concerns. If the concern is happening within your relationship, I prefer to work with both partners so we can understand and address what is happening between you rather than treating one person individually around the relationship.

If you're looking for individual sex therapy, I recommend finding a therapist who specifically offers that service.

“Sex therapist” can mean different things, so it's worth looking at a therapist's actual training.

AASECT Certified Sex Therapists complete specialized education, clinical experience, supervision, and certification requirements related specifically to human sexuality and sex therapy. If you're seeking sex therapy as a couple, I'd also look for someone with substantial training and experience working with relationships rather than treating the sexual concern only as an individual issue.

I'm an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and Gottman Method Level 3 Trained therapist. My practice is focused almost exclusively on couples, particularly when emotional and sexual concerns overlap.

Yes. I provide online sex therapy to couples throughout Texas.

I previously practiced in the Frisco area before relocating to Colorado, and I continue working with Texas couples online. Because sessions are virtual, you don't need to live in Dallas-Fort Worth to work with me. I can see clients throughout Texas, including Frisco, Dallas, Fort Worth, Austin, Houston, San Antonio, and smaller communities across the state.

You don't have to know before you call me.

Sex therapy may be helpful if sex has become a recurring source of conflict, pressure, disappointment, anxiety, avoidance, or disconnection, or if there's something about your sexual relationship that one or both of you would genuinely like to understand or change.

It can also be useful when your relationship is generally good but your sexual relationship isn't working the way you'd like it to.

A free 15-minute consultation gives us a chance to talk briefly about what you're looking for and whether my training and approach seem like a good fit.